This is me… Tarah Jayne Preston also known as Tarah James but lets not get into that story yet. I am the 3rd born of 4, a prodigy of two loving parents that were one; until they divorced when I was 22. A hard working family that had their own faults, fails and heartbreaks. As well as success and plenty of achievements! I grew up in a town at the bottom of Victoria, along the coast, windy and cold but beautiful beaches. I feel this snapshot of my background is important to get a picture of my beginning before we move on.
So fast forward to now – I am a 29 year old single mum of five amazing kids (yep that’s right, you read correctly five kids), one girl and four boys. Shocked?! Me too. I still wake up every morning and pinch myself and look around the room to see – is this really my life? You see, we get on a path in our lives, where we think we should be, we get so focused on the typical stereotype life of a “good job, husband, kids, nice house, etc. We get so focused on this path a bit like a roller coaster. It’s like we’re in the carriage and we’re locked in. There are ups and downs and all of a sudden the ride stops and we get off and look around… you know that feeling? Over-whelming right! Well I am standing on the platform, with five kids wondering how I got here and where to go now?
So how do I support my Jackson 5 you ask….? Well I’m still trying to figure that out. The whole “work/life” balance thing. You know the balance of home, kids, family, work, social, health, fitness and me time… (Me time??) Well my career is my life, except for my babies of course. My job is my passion! I am a Critical Care Nurse in the country town of Warrnambool, Victoria, Australia. I work in the Emergency Department and I just love it. I’m the luckiest Nurse alive, and when I say alive it’s because this job literally keeps me alive! I thrive on that place. The thrill of helping people, the thrill of the knowledge and skill needed to help and care for the unwell, people at their weakest. And the team I work with continually lift, support and inspire people. Like I said, that place keeps me alive. Even at my weakest when I feel I am drowning, they lift me! A big reason why I am surviving.
So it’s time to blog it up, Baby! Why? Because I’ve got a story that needs to be heard! Two reasons I want my story out there, one; I believe this is part of my journey to heal. You see this isn’t just my story that was or a story of how I made it. The truth is, this story I am telling you is my nightmare that I am currently living! So I want you to grow, heal and live with me on this journey. And second, corny I know, I want to help others. I want to build awareness, I want to advocate, I want to make a difference. I want to be a voice and change the future or yet, give a future to those who otherwise might not get one.
So what am I talking about?? Well let me tell you in order, my story starts with,
First: Being a young successful working Mumma. I began my life of parenthood at the age of 18 years! That’s right, I was one of those teenagers that took my bestie home with me to break the news that I was 12 weeks pregnant. Let’s just say Dad was a little scary chopping the veggies up that night with his butcher knives (Jokes).
Second My story of Adoption, How I adopted 3 of my beautiful baby boys. I am a proud permanent care mother that has the privilege of being the mother to three boys who used to be known as my nephews.
Third, Drugs and how I lost my husband and partner of 12 years and the father of my children to the current and all time worse epidemic society has ever had.
Fourth: Being a single Mum of my five amazing children. The hardest role ever imaginable. The struggle is real for so many!
Fifth and last but not least, the main topic is my journey with Domestic Violence! My story of how I was betrayed, manipulated and deceived day in and day out by my husband. My story of mental, emotional, financial, sexual, social and physical abuse. My story how I was abused so much and for so long I didn’t even know what was right or wrong anymore! How I kept it hidden from everyone, how I was brilliant at portraying the picture perfect life and my story of how I got myself and my babies out of that home and that life!
So this is my story, Follow me, Grow with me and help me find my way in this crazy world.
This is me….. PickingUpThePieces..
By Tarah Preston